The First Thing To Do If You’re Stuck In A Rut With Your Partner

“The funny thing about relationship ruts is that it always seems like they’re the other person’s fault. So, the typical first thing people do when in a rut is to complain about it to their partners, asking them to fix it. That usually doesn’t work very well. That’s because relationship ruts are caused by two people. Even if one person is unmotivated or a stick-in-the-mud, how you approach this challenging person can make a big difference. So, the very first thing people should do is this: Ask themselves, ‘What have I been saying or doing over and over without good results?’ Once this more-of-the-same behaviour has been identified, commit to doing something, anything entirely different.” – Michele Weiner-Davis, a Boulder, Colorado, marriage therapist and author of Divorce Busting

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