“I always liken it a bit to a midwife having a birth plan, with someone saying before the event ‘we might expect to see this’, and then when it is actually happening to the person, you can help them by saying, ’oh, you know, we talked about this, this was expected and this is part of the natural process of dying,’” Clare explains.
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